You see an attractive man sitting at the coffee shop beside you. Do you pretend you dropped the sugar so you must bend down in front of him? Do you keep making eyes at him until he approaches? Do you go up to him and tell him you dig how he licks the cappuccino foam off his beard?
To attract a man, it’s important to connect mentally and show confidence. Simple gestures like a touch or a playful look can make a big difference. Wearing red, along with carefully selecting your outfit and accessories, can also enhance your appeal.
Comprehending male arousal is complex, and in my sex coaching practice, I’ve seen more variability within genders than between genders when it comes to arousal. However, there are some specific ways that men’s arousal patterns can be unique. So let’s get into it - what turns men on?
Men Naturally Think About Sex MoreDisplay Visual StimuliMake Them Feel DesiredWear RedSmell like FertilityConclusion
Men Naturally Think About Sex More
Display Visual Stimuli
Make Them Feel Desired
Wear Red
Smell like Fertility
Conclusion
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Men are more likely to experience spontaneous sexual desire than women. As a result, men tend to think about sex more, be more open to casualhook ups, have a larger number ofsexual partners, and tend to be easier to seduce than women and people with vulvas.
This sexual receptiveness can also lead men to misattribute a person being friendly as showing sexual interest (perhaps because when they are being friendly, they also want to have sex). So, if you’re trying to turn a man on, it may be as simple as being nice to them, and they may (for once) be correct in jumping to the conclusion that you’re digging them.
Men also tend to spend more time looking at specific erogenous zones, such as breasts and genitals, when watching porn. In contrast, women may spend more time looking at other body parts, the general vibe of the room, and even the paintings in the background.
So, If you are trying to meet someone, showing a little bit of skin can help them take the first step in imagining the sexual situations they’d like to explore with you. Here are some examples of visually stimulating things:
Also, if you are already dating someone or are looking to spice up your marriage… sending intimate photos, having sex with the lights on, and creating situations where they can fully take in your body’s visual juiciness will likely increase arousal.
Although all genders want to be wanted, men seem to respond particularly strongly to an enthusiastic partner in their desire towards them and their responses during sex. What does this mean?
Here are seven effective ways to make him feel like he’s truly special to you.
If you’re into someone (and it feels reciprocal), tell them how much you want them. Tell them they have been in your thoughts (and be expressive to share if some of those thoughts are naughty).
Here’s an easy one: pick up some red.
In astudywhere men were shown the exact same images of women in the same outfit, either in red or another color - the women wearing red were rated as more attractive and sexually desirable than the same women wearing different colors.
In fact, when asked how much money they would spend on a date, the women in red were treated to a more expensive date! It was alsofoundthat women who wear red lipstick are also rated as more attractive than women who wear other color lipstick.
Red lipstick left men staring at women’s lips for 7.3 seconds, whereas all different colors led to a shorter stare - with pink lipstick coming in second at a 6.7-second stare (which still seems quite long!)
Scents can have a particularly large impact on arousal for men. On a subconscious level, men can tell when women are ovulating, and this leads them to have anincrease in testosterone levelsand aheightened desire for sex.
On the other hand, a fascinating study found that when men smell the scent of a woman’s tears, their arousal decreases, and they are less attracted to that person. What is the take-home message?
Plan a date when you’re horny and happy and let them excite you… and perhaps Titanic or Romeo and Juliet are not good first date movies. If you want to learn more about how emotions can be misattributed to situational stimuli, study up on theMisattribution of Arousal.
All men are unique, and I’m sure that once you get to know someone, you can figure out what tickles their fancy more than weaning red and not crying.
It is also important to point out that these studies are cis-focused and heternormative… however, why not use all the information you can arouse and excite potential partners? Who knows, perhaps some of these strategies can help someone notice how incredible you are.
So, let’s put it all together. If your crush is male, especially if you have shown some skin, there’s a fair chance they already thought about what you look like naked, perhaps multiple times. If you want to turn them on, show them that you are into them.
How obvert you want to be about this depends on both how brave you are, and what type of relationship you have with them. According to arecent Reddit threadwith over 4,000 upvotes, men dig a woman who makes the first move.
Also remember, flirting and getting to know someone should be fun, so be your genuine self. Hopefully, your date won’t be too focused on staring at your juicy red lips to hold down a conversation.
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